Why you won’t find love this year
We all want to find love in life. But many of us are unlucky in love and can’t understand why.
We are told by our Grandparents and Parents that we are a ‘catch’ and someone would be lucky to have us but sometimes this feels really hard to believe.
Here are the reasons we think you can’t find love and how you can change this.
Remember, even if you feel like you can’t find love right now, this does not mean you don’t deserve to or never will. Staying positive and knowing your value is everything.
You’re scared
Do you ever find yourself pushing someone you like away?
This is probably because you are scared. Scared of commitment or paranoid they will see a side of you that you don’t like.
It is important to remember that you are as worthy of love as anyone else and there is a reason that person is showing an interest in you; they probably like you.
I know it seems like a shock but it shouldn’t be. You have a lot to offer and being scared will only hide that.
You’re looking too hard
I know. People always say ‘when you’re looking for love you won’t find it’. This is always an annoying piece of advice to hear but there is something to listen to here.
When you seek love, the likelihood is you will just see the things you want to in a person and may end up settling too early.
Be open to love, of course, but don’t hunt it down.
Meet people. Get to know what you like and don’t like. But be honest with yourself about whether someone is right for you or not.
You haven’t accepted yourself
This point is intertwined with being scared.
When you haven’t accepted yourself yet you are probably scared that your (potential) love interest will see through you and then not like you.
Embrace your imperfection. Accept your past. Be you and don’t let anyone make you feel bad about it.
You want something you actually don’t want
You think you know what your type on paper is but this is probably bred out of insecurity or low self worth.
Always go for the ‘bad boys’ or the emotionally unavailable girls? This is probably because you feel you deserve to be treated badly.
This is NOT the case.
Try meeting different people, you never know, you might find someone that doesn’t meet your normal criteria that loves you the way you’ve always wanted to be loved.
You look too far ahead
Think you want to be married by 26, have a child by 28 and a puppy by 30?
Stop thinking so far ahead. The only thing you are doing is putting pressure on yourself and the most likely outcome is that you will settle for someone who doesn’t give you butterflies.
Focus on living in the moment. Be present. Embrace life and don’t forget that now is the only time you can control. Enjoy it.
